Evaluate Yourself
Have you recently asked yourself the question, "What do I deserve”?
Knowing the answer to this question really lays out what your life will look like. As you mature in your age, relationships, and perspective you will most likely use this question to evaluate where you are. If you haven’t done this before, go ahead and do it now.
Ask yourself this question. What do you deserve?
You should really take time to think about it. The more you know yourself, the clearer your answer will be. Have you thought lately about the kind of person you are to others? Are you genuine? Are you manipulative? Do you use people selfishly to get what you want? Do you lie or make an excuse instead of owning up to making a mistake? I find that the more I evaluate, the more clearly I see myself. I see all of the parts that I don’t necessarily want to see. I look at myself in the mirror and the mirror isn’t pristinely clean. It has a few smudges on it. But I don’t dwell on the smudges too long. I look at the smudges and I realize that I have smudges and then I go grab the windex and work the smudges out.
Evaluation brings clarity to your whole life. Sometimes I get caught up in how I had the right intentions, but the way the situation panned out I actually didn’t do the right thing. Right intentions, wrong actions. So I evaluate and start working on those smudges. If you think that your mirror is always pretty clean, you will never be a healthy individual. The lies that you feed your mind become your reality. So be honest with yourself. What do you deserve?
When your mind, heart, and soul are healthy what you deserve is fairly clear. How you behave and live and treat yourself shows what you will accept from others. If you always see that your mirror is dirty, scratched, and there are smudges everywhere, then you have the opposite problem. You are a victim to your incorrect vision. You don’t think you deserve what a healthy person deserves. You think that there is a certain threshold that you can get up to, but nothing past that. This type of thinking is not right either. You also need to get your windex out and start cleaning. (Go back and read my blog on loving yourself titled “I Love Me”) It is time for you to write up your affirmations and and start your journey to healing your mind and treating yourself more fairly.
So whether you suffer from thinking that you deserve everything or nothing, know that we are all on a journey. If you are intentional about evaluating yourself, you will realize that the more honest you are with your shortcomings and the more intentional you are about facing them head on, the more whole you will be.
Here are a few things that I know we all deserve:
- Respect. Know your worth and do not allow anyone to make you feel less than or unloved or below par.
- Health. Go to the doctor when you are sick, get your teeth cleaned, do yoga.
- Happiness. Whatever that definition is for you; travel, sunshine, the right job, a good relationship, etc.
- Love. This goes back to my previous point that the way you treat yourself will dictate how you treat others. You deserve to love yourself and you deserve someone who loves themselves. This is the best kind of love to live by and to receive.
- Prosperity. Not necessarily just financial, but you do deserve success. Live with the knowledge that there is good stuff in the world for everybody. We all can be winners and we all can be successful in our own ways.
The last question I want you to ask yourself is what do my actions and character put out into the world? Think about it. Think about the beautiful person that you are and be that. Be whole, be kind, be loving, be thoughtful, be forgiving, and most of all be honest with yourself.
Love,
LOLA
